I heard a song and it struck me. It said “I just want to feel ok”. I remember thinking that. A LOT. I felt lost, definitely not ok. Looking back, I felt that way most of my life. So when I was going through my […]
Category: Divorce
CLOSURE
Ambiguous grief. What is it? It is the grief experienced from the loss of a loved one, who is still alive, accompanied by a change or death of the relationship. It can feel like torture. As humans, we want closure. When we don’t get it, we are challenged to live […]
BOUNDARIES
Recently I had to do some boundary work with some people in my life. Some with a person I don’t want in my life and some with people I do want in my life. It is extremely uncomfortable. I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. […]
GET BACK IN THE RING
Brene Brown. She is a hero of mine. I have always said she changed my life, but when I look back, she didn’t change my life. I did that. Her words helped me, motivated me, and inspired me to change my own life. I read […]
LONG GONE
Have you ever been in a relationship where you were long gone before you even left? Your heart, your mind, your soul. All gone before you physically made your way out the door. The person you used to love now drives you crazy. It’s hard […]
DESPERATE FOR AN APOLOGY?
We think when we’ve been “wronged”, we deserve an apology. Some validation that we are right and they are wrong. It makes us angry every time we think about the injustice. Judgement, bitterness, righteousness; it can fill us up. If they would just ADMIT some […]
WHY HOPE IS DANGEROUS
Hoping for something and working for something are two different things. Here’s an example from my life. I was 46, divorced, and had two young-ish kids. I knew I wanted a relationship again someday, but here’s what I told myself: You’re getting old. Strike 1. Most […]
FULLY SEEN
Just imagine how your kids would feel if they knew you loved them for all that they are. Not just what we want them to be. To not have to pretend with your friends. To not expect someone to be any different than who they […]
CAUSING PAIN?
Who wants to feel pain? Hurt? No one does. So instead we lash out and hurt those around us. Sometimes even ourselves. This was never more clear to me at the end of my marriage and the months following. I was the object of a […]
STORMS
Lifetime of calm water? No thank you. Those storms made me the person I am today. I wouldn’t have the great friendships I have now without those lessons. I wouldn’t be the mom I am without those experiences. I know for a fact I wouldn’t […]
