Do you feel like you should be over it by now? Seriously, I should be over this. Why am I still struggling? I asked myself that question so many times. The only time we want to really talk about grief is when we are grieving. […]
Category: Divorce
MY HAPPY PLACE
TRUST This picture was taken at the end of November and was one of my most memorable days of riding last year. It all started last spring when I signed up for 2 mountain bike classes, by myself, a little scared and not really knowing […]
HEALING
STRENGTH What does healing mean? What does it look like? For those in pain and suffering, we desperately want it, NEED it. Real healing isn’t pretty; it is hard, exhausting, and draining. It is messy. It has no timeline. Just when you think you are […]
STRUGGLING AFTER DIVORCE: PART 3
COACHING As I went through the process of finding out who I was and more importantly, who I could be, I knew I wanted to do something different with my life. I made a huge investment in coaching school and as I’ve mentioned, it completely […]
STRUGGLING AFTER DIVORCE: PART 2
RESISTANCE If we take a closer look at anxiety, it is usually the resistance of a feeling. In my marriage, I wanted to feel like I was part of a team. When I wasn’t included, I was hurt and disappointed. I didn’t know how to […]
STRUGGLING AFTER DIVORCE: PART 1
ANXIETY Do you struggle with anxiety following your divorce? I know I did. It turns out anxiety became a significant part of my life for a couple of decades. For years during my marriage I had anxiety, but I had no idea. If you’ve had […]
POST DIVORCE HOLIDAYS
DREAD Are you dreading Christmas? Last year I just wanted to skip it. I was newly divorced with two young kids. Turns out it wasn’t my year to have my children and the thought of waking up ALONE on my first “single” Christmas brought tears […]
PEOPLE PLEASERS
CONTROL Can I get a show of hands for all the people pleasers out there? I am in recovery, but still fall off the wagon now and then. When we try to people please, it’s an attempt to control other people’s opinion of us to […]
TAKING RESPONSIBILITY
SUFFERING You can’t suffer enough to make someone else stop suffering. I can’t tell you how much this sentence resonates with me. To the point of tears. Nor should you expect the same of someone else. When we believe we aren’t responsible for our own […]
PAIN
I have been through the trenches on this one. Divorce triggered my pain and it was tormenting. My body felt ravaged by hurt and it was excruciating. I wasn’t prepared. Not even a little. We all experience pain at regular intervals in our lives. We […]
