Ok, here is some tough love.
We all have a sad story.
We all have stress.
So many responsibilities.
We get to choose how to tell our story.
Do you tell your story with a lot of drama?
Do you tell your story and sound like a victim?
Do you always have a villain to blame?
The world is against me. Nothing ever works out. I am cursed.
UGH.
STOP.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
What are you willing to DO about it?
Because what you are doing right now isn’t working.
I’ve sure had some sad stories.
I’ve sounded like a victim.
Feeling sorry for myself did ABSOLUTELY nothing but keep me stuck.
No one is going to hand us a better life. That is our responsibility. ALWAYS.
Feeling sorry for ourselves won’t bring us happiness.
Our jobs won’t get better, our relationships won’t grow, our health won’t miraculously improve.
Most importantly, our minds will stagnate.
You don’t need self-care.
You need to get to work. RIGHT NOW.
We all get sad, or angry, or feel like a victim. That’s human. It’s normal.
It can even get comfortable.
But do you really want to STAY there?
Here’s how you know the difference:
-When you THINK you are asking for help, but not REALLY wanting it.
-When you are trying to recruit your friends into believing how awful your life is.
-When you are more committed to your problem than the solution.
It can be overwhelming to think about making changes. Exhausting to think about making decisions. But overwhelm and exhaustion can easily lead to depression.
Do you want something better? Well, I’m here to tell you the world isn’t against you and you aren’t cursed. YOU are against you. You have chosen comfort over growth.
There are things that I want. It doesn’t work out sometimes. But I’m committed to my goals, not my sad story. Don’t get me wrong; I feel my sadness, my disappointments, and my pain because that’s healthy. I allow my sadness. I carry it with me while I get to work on something even better. I had to learn that skill, it took practice. I remember when my coach told me I sounded a bit like a victim. It felt like a slap in the face. EXCUSE ME??? I wanted to argue, to defend, and justify. But I sat silent and absorbed that word. I had to dig deep and see that truth. I vowed from that moment on that I would NEVER think like a victim again.
Don’t coddle me. Don’t agree with me because you are afraid to tell me the truth.
I can handle honesty. So can you.
If you coach with me, I will push you to do this work.
Any changes that you want to make in your life MUST begin with what you believe.
That’s the only way to make them permanent. You have to dig deep and figure out what beliefs you have. Those are what got you where you are today. From there, all the magic happens. You are the only one holding yourself back.
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