Ambiguous grief. What is it? It is the grief experienced from the loss of a loved one, who is still alive, accompanied by a change or death of the relationship. It can feel like torture. As humans, we want closure. When we don’t get it, we are challenged to live […]
Tag: healing
CAUSING PAIN?
Who wants to feel pain? Hurt? No one does. So instead we lash out and hurt those around us. Sometimes even ourselves. This was never more clear to me at the end of my marriage and the months following. I was the object of a […]
MY DEFINITION OF A RELATIONSHIP
I talk a lot about relationships. I am all about them. With yourself, your kids, parents, friends, your boss, and your special someone. I thought I would tell you what a relationship with a partner means to me. So here goes. When I was in […]
RELATIONSHIPS
The health of your relationship is not the amount of time you spend together, it’s your thoughts about each other.Think about it.Take an ex-spouse or ex-boyfriend/girlfriend. Don’t kid yourself, if you’re still thinking about them, you still have a relationship with them.Maybe you don’t even […]
ANGER
I’ve got anger.Surprising, right?I talk a lot about healing, vulnerability, growth, and pain.But sometimes anger is a good thing.It lets us know that something might be wrong.It can be fuel to change.It makes me angry when people are told to compromise to make someone else […]
LOVE
Here’s what I’ve learned about love:I fall in love easily.I’m not sure if that’s good or bad.I have a huge capacity to love.Deep in my soul I KNOW that’s a good thing.But when I experience loss, it’s incredibly painful.And then I wonder if it’s all […]
FEEL
What if we weren’t in a hurry to feel better? What if the pain & hurt we are feeling is a call to pay attention to ourselves? If we don’t feel good, we need to understand WHY. We need to stay in pain long enough […]
ANXIETY
What if you didn’t judge your anxiety? What if you are just a person with anxiety? The alternative to not allowing the feeling is that you are freaking out about freaking out. Our brains go to the worst case scenario and that’s ok. Judgement and […]
TAKE YOUR POWER BACK
A lot of people think they would be happier if someone in their lives would just change.It is very damaging when your emotional happiness is tied directly to someone behaving a certain way.If they DO change for you, it won’t be lasting change.You will ALWAYS […]
ARE YOU BEING A BULLY?
Beating yourself up emotionally is not motivational, it’s being a bully. Nothing good comes from causing ourselves to feel shame. I speak from experience on this one. I bullied myself all the time. If I had an off day climbing, I beat myself up. Too […]
